During the past two decades, I’ve dated both men in recovery and men who weren’t alcoholics (called “normies” by us in the program).I’m currently single again, a sober divorcée in the strange world of online dating. How do you allude to your past (and present) situations without lying or scaring off a potential match?The old “I’ve wrestled with my demons and won” line? How about a simple, “I’m a pretty hot colossal f**k up”?It’s always a little awkward when a potential date wants to “meet you for a drink.” Telling them you’re sober feels like confessing to some horrible chronic STD.I've often wondered if there would be much of a demand for an 12 Step Dating website, where singles in 12 Step programs could meet up with other 12 Step singles. When you think about at all the ways that singles typically meet; work, through friends and family, other online dating sites, and the infamous bar scene...well, you never really know what the drinking habits of a potential suitor might be (except for the bar scene and I know for certain that I'm not going down that road! For me to stay sober, I know that I wouldn't ever want to have a a dating or romantic relationship with a drinker again..if they weren't an alcoholic. I know that down the road when I will be more interested in getting back into the dating world, I will definitely only want to get involved with a non-drinker.
Natasha, an ex-pat who's been on the wagon for 10 years agrees.Features: Search and email singles in Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous and other clean and sober people in recovery.Meet sober men and women locally or across the globe.12Step Match is the ORIGINAL Recovery Dating Web Site for Sober Men and Women Online to come for Sober Dates, Love or Friends and Support and to search within your own 12 Step Program of Recovery.Whether it be AA Singles, NA Singles, Al-Anon Singles, GA, OA…“You need to find someone who understands trials and tribulations of someone in recovery.Both Kole and Williams were inspired to start sober dating websites from their own recovery experiences.I think knowing on the front-end that someone is living sober and has/is working the steps would take that concern away from me and allow me to be more open and hopeful with the potential of the relationship.It would also be comforting for me to know that if I were to become involved with a fellow recovering alcoholic that he would understands the struggles and the work involved in living sober and it seems like having a partner in the program would make it so much better than working the program on your own! Kelly There are a couple of Recovery Singles sites out there, but I haven't joined.I mean does this idea of a 12-step dating site sound like a "sane" idea? How many lead stories have you heard where an ex-husband moves in with the ex-wife and her new boyfriend because the probation department needed the ex-husband to have some kind of "responsible" person without a criminal record vouch for him. At convention dances, I'm there to have a good time but not to take it serious like a dance partner might be a potential date or something.Lord have mercy, I'm deathly afraid of what kinds of crazy issues will come out of it. Lordy all the stories of ex-wives and husbands and new husbands and wives, and boyfriends and girlfriends getting together and comparing notes - then they get together and play cards on Friday nights. " I haven't had much personal experience with this -- but, I know that while I was living in the Southern California area, I often went to 12 Step Dances, because I knew I would meet other 12 Steppers there, and that the emphasis would be on sobriety... At the 12 Step Dances, I did meet other 12 Steppers and sometimes we would date -- and it turned out really great, because of our similar interests in life. Often, many of them are married or in relationships, and they, too, are just dancing for the fun of dancing and having a good time... Join THOUSANDS of our Sober Singles and find Sober Dates at the ORIGINAL Online 12 Step Dating Site for Alcoholics Anonymous Singles, Narcotics Anonymous Singles and ALL Single Sober Adults in every 12 Step Program of Recovery. Meet Single Sober Men and Women locally or around the Globe for Sober Dates, Love or Friends.Search for Sober Singles and Dates by your own 12 Step Program. Whatever your Program, we have other Recovery Singles waiting to meet you!One thing I know for sure is that I don't know anything. I guess I'm trying to say is that I have heard some people say that they have used dating sites and things turned out great. I've met a few relationships f2f and it didn't turn out so good either, so I sure can't advise anyone on that score. Hi all, I was giving this some thought after carefully reading the responses.