Clark (2008) found that the use of nonverbal "proceptive behaviors" generally makes someone of the opposite sex more attractive.
However, these behaviors were rated to be most effective when they are performed by women, rather than by men.
“I find it comforting to know that her life goes on when I’m not around,” he said. Plus, I’m talking about outside of the bedroom as well. etc.) But many are not.** She’s choosier, and, unlike the 26-year-olds who think they’ll drop dead if they’re not engaged by 27, married at 28, and prego before 30, she’s looking at life a little differently now.
(This is code for, “I dread clingy girls who abandon their own ships the moment we have sex, and set up camp on my shore.”) Also, the fact that an older woman has her own money means she likely worked hard to get it. You may buy into the idea that all older women are “desperate.” Granted, some are. This doesn’t mean she doesn’t want marriage/kids, because she might—but if so, she’ll be pretty clear about it up front.
But I have a confession to make: I don’t answer every question that comes into my inbox.
Her female clients are educated, often tech-savvy and, like her, many have been divorced.She believes that Western men are more accepting of this, yet conversely are thought to have poorer family values.Still, Julia describes the high pressure in Asian societies for women to start families at younger ages than in the West. The myth that Asian women are more submissive rings true for those who have never actually dated an Asian woman.Because the response to the initiation is uncertain, Farrell (1986, p 126) noted: "The 'first time' is the most important time, when the risk of rejection is by far the greatest." Nonverbal Proceptive Signaling In contrast, proceptive relationship initiation signals are typically open to various interpretations. Robinson gives proceptive nonverbal signals to her daughter's friend Ben, who says: "You are trying to seduce me, Mrs. " (italics added) The potential ambiguity of proceptive signals leaves the signaler less open to direct personal rejection since such initiations can be seen as either an initiation, or as just very friendly behavior.Monica Moore (1985; 2002) has catalogued a variety of nonverbal proceptive behaviors, including smiling, brief glances, raising of the eye brows, hair flips, drawing attention to attractive parts of the body, etc.Because risky initiatives are unambiguous, they cannot be misinterpreted.In the film "When Harry Met Sally" Harry makes a risky initiative that Sally finds offensive, so he says "I take it back." Sally replies: "You can't take it back, it is already out there." First time risky initiatives are especially salient because the initiator has no previous history of acceptance by the target person.In my life, I've often encountered a certain type of Western guy who was attracted to Asian women. I wanted to know why, so I set out to make a documentary.What emerged five years later, after hundreds of hours of research, including interviews with men and women who posted ads for Asian women on sites like Craigslist and Asiafriendfinder, was "Seeking Asian Female", an eccentric, tender and at-times uncomfortable love story between a 60-year-old American man and his 30-year-old Chinese fiancée.Dating an older woman is quite the rage these days.As a woman over 35, I’ve never felt more desired by men in their late 20s and early 30s than I do now—moreso even than when I was that age. Pay no attention to the ol’ elbow-jabbing, wink-wink idea that cougars* are “more likely to put out and pay for everything.” Meh, that may be a reason a naïve man attempts to score with an older lady, but it’s hardly the reason a smart man enters a relationship with one.I'm also creating a companion project, "They're All So Beautiful," an online video series and forum to discuss the nuances of race, romance and "yellow fever."Though the concept dates back centuries, dating Asian women, or, more accurately, the idea of dating Asian women, has officially gone mainstream.While I spoke to a lot of aging white men, I also spoke with young hipsters, black men and Latinos who desire Asian women.The first method has been termed a "risky initiative" (Farrell, 1986), the latter nonverbal flirting behaviors are often called "proceptive behaviors" (Moore, 1985; 2002).