Allen has a job working at a church that requires him to work long hours and when we aren’t in school (we are in college) I see him maybe once a week.

What makes me angry is that when we do have time off he simply won’t try to make time for us.

In fact, I'd been going about being single all wrong.

When I started seeing my husband, aka the first guy I wasn't embarrassed to tell my therapist about, I was gobsmacked to realize how much I hadn't known about dating before then.

No one wants to be the Captain Ahab of the dating world.2.

You simply need to know who you are and which category best fits you. Unlike the small subset of men and women who work too much because they simply love their job (I know, I know), the vast majority of men and women who work too much have more dysfunctional motivations.

Then when it didn’t work out they’d feel badly…about themselves.

No, not the guy who said all of these offensive things or treated a woman disrespectfully.

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