He recently left the military and earned a college degree.He was married briefly and divorced a couple of years ago.I found his profile and he says he is 29 years old and unemployed. I understand you are upset but just because he's unemployed it doesn't mean there's anything wrong or sinister about him. It can work out, and there's nothing wrong with an age difference. Leave them be and if she's happy she will introduce him to you.Since then, he has driven their coed group of friends around town to movies and such on occasion for some months now.This whole time, Ive been constantly asking why is a 25 year old guy ok with hanging out with a group of 17-18 year olds? But Daughter said that Guy doesnt drink and all his friends do, and he doesnt like to hang out with a bunch of drunk people. By now, Ive met Guy a few times and he actually seems like a nice person. Her dad and I (We are divorced, but try to keep a united front in the raising of the kids) found out they have been dating for a while and are possibly having sex.Just let your daughter get on with it if he is a waster she will soon find out for herself x I would be very concerned, to be honest and I would do my utmost to bring a speedy halt to the relationship.
You might even say Western men are better able to maintain their desire for younger women in a way that isn’t as pedophilic as others. My 16 yo DD has been dating a 29 yo man for 6 weeks now. My parents werent happy about my relationship with my oh, pushed me away by trying to tell me what to do, so I moved 300miles away to live with him. Be the shoulder if and when she needs it I think you should apologise and let her know you love her and respect her choices.She has never mentioned him to me but there are photos of them together on her Facebook. I am ashamed to say I lost control of my emotions and I pushed her. She left the house and has just sent me a text saying that she's happy and I don't understand how she feels. I don't know where he lives or even if she's with him although I'm assuming she is. That way if it does go wrong you can be there for her without saying 'I told you so'.I've been a lurker here for some time, and I've seen some great advice given out. I found out that my 17 (18 in 6 months) year old daughter is dating a 25 year old guy that she had previously only been friends with, and Im not sure how to handle this.First off, my Daughter is a smart, funny, mature, independent girl with a lot of friends and who does very well in school, and is preparing for college next year. She broke up with her last boyfriend (who was her age) because he always had drama going on around him, and unlike a lot of teenagers I know, she hates drama. ) Daughter met him some months ago when her friend got her uncle (The Guy) to drive them to the mall.When I first started seeing my current partner I was 19 he was 39. Yes she's 16, but in just 2 years time she's legally an adult and you don't want to drive her away do you?I was 17yrs when I met my now dh and he was 32yrs, neither of my parents were too happy but my mums friend once asked her what would she prefer, a person into drugs, alcohol and a violent man or my now dh who had a steady job, would look after me and was (fairly ) decent.Daughter and I have had a couple of very calm and honest discussions about the relationship, and why I'm uncomfortable with it: their evasiveness about his age; the upper hand he has by virtue of his life experiences; a relationship I see as much more beneficial to him than to her; her being in her mid-50s when he's 80. She said she feels bad that she can't talk about him with me, and I've told her I'm here if she needs me, but that I haven't been able to reconcile myself to the relationship.Sometimes, she'll bring up something about him, and I listen politely and then talk about something else.I’d always felt pretty mature for my age (as so many women do), and especially in comparison to the guys around me.I stayed married to my husband for seven years, and by the time our relationship ended, I saw our age difference in a completely different way.So the last few weeks, I notice her texting and talking on the phone to Guy more and more. She and I have discussed sex, safe sex, responsibility and consequences on numerous occasions, and she has confided in me about some of her friends activities; some that she disagrees with.I start to question her on the nature of their relationship. On that note, I feel she is comfortable talking and being open with me.At first, he wouldn't tell her his age, and when I asked her, she just said he was "older," so I got the info through public records.