High school sweethearts, we married a year after I graduated and by the time we separated we had three kids, ages 14, 11 and 9. Well, I hadn't been in any relationship except the one with my husband since I was 18. The truth is, finding people to date post-divorce may be more difficult. You will now need to consider not only whether or not your prospective partner is suitable for you, but also if said partner is suitable to co-parent. My advice is to pay attention to potential singles in the produce aisle, as right away, you know they're healthy. But, at some point your mortality is likely to catch up to you, and you will realize that you don't want to be alone forever.
The day we sat on the sofa and broke the news, my daughter could only yell, "I high school! Therefore each first date becomes a sort of internally conducted interview for your future.
You don't want them to be blindsided by the decision or hear about it from someone else.
Keep in mind, too, that you don't have to be specific.
You can simply open it up by asking whether they've thought about the idea of you dating again someday, and how they think that might make them feel.
“Tell them they are your first priority and you’ll always be there for them, no matter who you’re dating.” If kids are resistant or negative, don’t get defensive. “I’ve done a pretty careful job of limiting (my son’s) exposure to anybody that I wasn’t 100 percent sure could be marriage (material),” says Sean Singer, a divorced dad in Plymouth.
Seven years since his divorce, Singer has only introduced his now 14-year-old son to two women, neither of whom he ended up marrying.
Dating after divorce is complicated, especially for parents whose children still live at home.
And since every situation is different, there's no 'one size fits all' timeline to follow.