COMMITMENT If you’re relationship-minded, let her know.
Say things like, “I don’t date people just to date them.”If you’re not a long-termer, don’t lead her on.
I was driving myself crazy trying to determine why I got rejected by some women and not others.
Why some would ghost me, politely decline another meetup or inexplicably claim that they were busy every night of the week. Now, I’m one those strange people who love Excel spreadsheets.
And so I kept track of whom I went out with; how we met (through an app, friends, etc.); how many dates we went on; and who ultimately decided to end things.Whether it’s hitting the gym or brushing up on 19th century French poetry, almost everyone is doing something to make themselves more attractive to that special someone — especially with Valentine's Day right around the corner.But as countless relationship experts say, in the end you’ve just got to be yourself.Zoosk predicts “Lumbersexual” with be among 2015’s buzz words, replacing “basic.” But if you’re a guy, you’re going to want to walk the talk, because men with outdoor photos on their profiles received 19% more messages than those who didn’t.“We do see a lot of men's profiles that have been quickly put together,” says Braley.“Women really reward the guys who take the time to get outside, get a friend to take a picture of them, and put in a little bit of extra effort.” Women, on the other hand, are advised to keep it inside, because outdoor photos decreased their messages received by 40%.Wired asked the dating site Ok Cupid for photos of 400 of the highest-rated profiles in 10 major US cities, and the results were intriguing.They found that over 80% of users with the hottest ranked profiles had strong eye contact.You think nothing of it but she hears all of that when you speak those two detrimental little words-just kidding.It’s obvious that you were just joking and there is no need to say it unless you fear her getting upset.Online dating can be empowering, with thousands of potential dating partners just a few clicks away.But it can also be daunting, leaving you feeling overwhelmed by the choices and underwhelmed with the process.So if I couldn’t get into the heads of the women I’d been out with, at least I could keep track of why I decided not to pursue a second, third or fourth date.If I just punched in enough data, perhaps some trends would reveal themselves.Besides, the era of big dating data has plenty of other ways to put your best face forward.