If she says no, I cut my losses because chances are she is a time waster who loves attention but isn't serious about online dating.^^^ the Google result will give you only a general area, not exact address with street name and house number.Sometimes if the number is not restricted, you can find out the name of the phone account holder.That was back in the days when people still had land lines and published their numbers in the phone book.A person cannot find out where you live by your cell phone alone, unless somewhere on the public internet you wrote "My name is [x] and my phone number is [x] and the address associated with both is [x]. Unless you're dating a guy who works at NSA or is a computer hacker.Am I being unfair with this expectation of not giving my phone number out and preferring to spend weeks on online chatter? If you’ve ever wondered why you struggle with men, it’s quite likely because you’ve never given much value to HIS circle in the Venn Diagram.I actually do like this gentleman, which is unusual for me. I figure this is as good a time as any to float a pretty non-controversial theory of how to be successful in dating. Okay, so you know what a Venn Diagram looks like, right? I always ask for the man’s phone number, and offer to call him. Is it possible to find a woman who’ll have sex on Date 1? Is it possible to find a man who’ll wait until marriage before having sex? But there are a LOT fewer people who will agree to either. I would suggest that both will find their stances largely ineffective in dealing with the majority of the population.
As a man, I usually wait 3-5 messages before asking for a phone number or meet up.
If you think something is reasonable, but nobody else on the planet agrees with you, you’re going to be more effective by finding a compromise point closer to the majority position. Men who don’t pick up the full check on Date 1 are not “wrong”, but they are ineffective. In the Venn Diagram of Online Dating (copyright, Evan Marc Katz), men’s circle is Speed. He wants to meet you right NOW and see you naked ASAP. You know as well as I do that women don’t want to be bullied into going on blind dates: “Dear Dan, thank you for your initial inquiry. Besides, your profile doesn’t say very much about you, so maybe if you tell me more about yourself, if we click, then, maybe in a few weeks, I’ll give you my phone number and we can go from there.” This is the entire reason that I came up with a strategy that works for both men AND women.
This Venn diagram theory goes for pretty much everything in life. And by ineffective, I mean that by not being able to understand (much less cater to) the opposite sex’s point of view, you’re pretty much eliminating your options.
Is there a protocol that if you are the one that starts communications you should be the first one to call?
A couple of guys that did this I wasn’t that excited about I just dropped and they never called. Dear Carol, If a guy wants to meet with you, but can’t take the effort to pick up the phone, he clearly doesn’t want to meet you that bad.