Guys were full-on spamming my inbox with multiple messages before I could reply to even one asking why I wasn’t responding and what was wrong.
Guys would become hostile when I told them I wasn’t interested in NSA sex, or guys that had started normal and nice quickly turned the conversation into something explicitly sexual in nature.
My success of each site is still TBD, but so far, and in true 27/F/Single, fashion, I've found 'I can't help but wonder,' why modern-day online dating sites still lack some very basic features. No, but thanks, I don't really want my ex of five years/lost love of my life finding me swimming around Plenty of Fish with a bold, scarlet lettering -- subtext of 'SINGLE' seemingly tattooed only three centimeters right of my head shot. I'm sure there's some hefty scientific research behind this, but numbers don't trump common sense and, honestly, neither as the writer or reader do I find this section to be anything more than a complete waste. A filter to block all half-naked selfie pictures of men. Maybe it's just a writer way-with-words mindset, but sense of humor is a girl's best friend and I'm sick of looking through days -- literally -- of profiles to try to find one with an ounce of wit or charm.
Seeing multiple pictures of muscles glistening against your i Phone flash, all greased up, and flexing offends me -- not to mention scars my eyes -- far more than having the word 'shit' squeezed between two other words in your profile.
One caveat: This hideaway isn’t a beach in the truest sense as it has wide, flat rocks, perfect for sunbathing, lining the water’s edge.
“At first I thought it was fun, I thought it was weird but maybe I would mess with them or something and freak them out and tell them I was a guy or something, but as more and more messages came (either replies or new ones I had about 10 different guys message me within 2 hours) the nature of them continued to get more and more irritating.
Seemingly nice dudes in quite esteemed careers asking to hook up in 24 hours and sending them naked pics of myself despite multiple times telling them that I didn’t want to.” As a male coach for smart, strong, successful women, I apologize on behalf of all men. But they really don’t get what it’s like to walk a mile in your shoes.
I wrote about this in Finding the One Online extensively – what it’s like to be a woman dating online and how men need to up their games to connect.
So sit back, relax, and let's get you doing what most of the rest of the online dating crowd Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone.
So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating.